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At North Berkeley Couples Therapy Center, we’re always looking to grow our team with the most talented, diverse and passionate sex therapists, couples counselors, individual psychotherapists and clinicians the San Francisco Bay Area has to offer. If you’re looking to join us, please review our job postings below. Thank you for your interest. We look forward to hearing from you.
East Bay Sex Therapist on how to have better sex
Especially in intimate partnerships, in which each person's needs are always in flux, it is important to have an ongoing and effective flow of communication. This is particularly important in the context of intimate and satisfying sex.
A healthy and gratifying sex life is created from a combination of safety, intimacy, trust, openness, communication and even humor and playfulness. It also means you need to know what you enjoy and be able to communicate your needs and wants.
How to Make Couples Therapy Work
In order for couples therapy to be successful, both members of the couple must be engaged in the process and motivated by a desire to make things better. If one or both members of the couple is mostly interested in playing a blame game and looking for the therapist to “fix” their partner, then therapy will not work. Each member of the couple must become dedicated to working as a team in order to understand their ineffective patterns of relating, learn how to deepen trust and intimacy and to repair the relationship.
One key task of the couple therapist is to help each partner to understand his or her own patterns and specific contributions to the negative dynamics in the relationship. Once the individuals can identify their problematic thoughts, feelings, behaviors and beliefs about themselves, each other and the relationship, they can team up against the negative cycle. The therapist helps the couple to prevent and heal the distress caused by these unhealthy patterns so that healthy communication can be exchanged.